Since the sentencing I’ve been relieved. That’s the biggest feeling I’ve felt.
But occasionally I have moments of deeper thought.
In Australia people receive seven years for one punch.
So why does a man in the UK receive 5 years for pushing a defenceless woman to the ground and assault?
Five years is enough time to change a life but I find myself hoping it’s enough time for him.
I’ve recently decided to take my independence and freedom back and go travelling.
Whilst travelling you meet a lot of new new people. This has been good for me and let me remember that strangers are very rarely monsters.
However there have been a few comments that struck a chord and reminded me of what happened.
Firstly talking to a man who said he believed that the majority of assault victims cry wolf for attention or to relieve themselves of the label ‘Slut’.
And secondly a lovely man who told me of a time he felt uncomfortable when a friend leant in to kiss him. He told me that he ‘froze’. He said he could understand the stories of assault victims who felt helpless or like they couldn’t get away.
Neither of these men knew my story but it showed me the variety of views people have.
I’m the person who intervened the incident on the evening of 1 April.
Thank you very much for your letter, it was extremely thoughtful of you. I must say I was overwhelmed and taken aback by your generous words.
I was very pleased when informed by the police that you wished to get in contact with me. It was a big regret of mine that evening that I didn’t manage to ask for your name or any contact details just to see if you were ok following the incident.
Everything just happened ever so quickly.
However, the most important thing is that you are ok and doing well. I cannot imagine what must have been going through your mind at the time of the incident and the days that followed. By the sounds of it you have a very close knit and supportive family.
I truly believe that I was in the right place at the right time and if it wasn’t for you alerting me, then I would not have been aware of the seriousness of the incident, so it was very much a team effort!!
If you need any reassurance regarding the incident (or anything in general for that matter) then please let me know.
Take care of yourself
All the best
They haven’t called me to tell me but I found it online.
He’s now in court.
The sentence was given today. 5 years because he pled guilty straight away and he will also be deported.
Feels final and finished. I’m amazed at how quick it has all happened and know how luck I am.
A beautiful quote given to me by my mother that I now have above my bed:
‘In Japan broken objects are often repaired with gold, the flaw is seen as a unique piece of the object’s history, which adds to its beauty.
Consider this when you feel broken’
Today speaking to my support she told me something that I found really helpful.
Everything is a choice.
So when I get stressed or upset or feel anxious in a situation I have to just chose a different option.
Recognise the issue
^ ^ ^
Let it go Dwell on it Postpone
I quite like this idea and plan to use it when I go away travelling at the end of the week.
Always think of three points of view.
1 2 3
My feelings Their feelings The rational
This morning I woke up to the news that the sentencing has been delayed. Apparently this is very common but it’s taken me by surprise.
Today I was hoping to feel like just another girl again and for everything to be over.
Apparently this means nothing serious and that nothing has changed. It’s purely a small disappointment that seems much larger having waited.